BANISHED… BUT NOT FOREVER


“I don’t remember what it was I  said one day. I must confess, from a very young age I was prone to say things without thinking. Whatever it was, it offended (her).  I was banished from the farm for a year when I was twelve.”

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What a wonderful lady!
 Mrs. Kelly and her family came to be caretakers of the County Farm, across the road from my childhood home. I was young when the Kelly family came to live in our neighborhood.
 I adored the majestic building, easily seen from our front yard.
8yearsoldIn front of our house..County Farm in the distance.
It was a very large, very old building. Elderly folks who couldn’t afford a home and needed someone to care for them, came there to live. 
 Some folks called it the Poor Farm, but to me, it was never poor.
The home always displayed a dignity which deserved the regal title, “County Farm”.
When I was very young, I began to visit the Farm as often as I could. There were seven older people living there at the time. A section of the large house was set aside for their comfort; a dining room, bedrooms, a bath and a living room.
Mrs. Kelly cooked the meals for the residents.  One of the more able ladies, whose name was “Rilla”, helped with the table settings of the long dinner table in their separate dining room. She always turned plates and cups at each place upside down before the meal; first the plate, then the cup.  
I was fascinated by her arrangement.
  Mother wasn’t happy when I tried to set our dinner table the same way.  It seemed quite picturesque to me.  I could never understand Mother’s disdain for it.
On the front side of the house, which I passed on my way to visit with Mrs. Kelly, there was a porch. The older ladies often sat their in rocking chairs, watching the world (and me) go by.
On one such occasion, I noticed one of the ladies with a newspaper spread out across her stomach as she sat quietly in her chair. I asked her why she had it there and she said,  “It’s to keep my bowels warm”.
Now that’s a remedy, to this day, I would never have thought of on my own.
 The Kelly family had a grown son and daughter pursuing careers in far off parts of the country. Their youngest daughter still lived at home and was soon to graduate from high-school.
I don’t remember what it was I  said one day. I must confess, from a very young age I was prone to say things without thinking. Whatever it was, it offended Mrs. Kelly.  I was banished from the farm for a year when I was twelve.
It was to be a lifelong lesson.
Be careful what you say. Be aware, if you can, of how the other person may be receiving your words.
For the next year, I didn’t follow my favorite path to the County Farm.  At  thirteen I ventured a return.
 No ill feelings were shown toward me from Mrs. Kelly. Our friendship continued.
Many times I watched Mrs. Kelly kneading a very large pan of bread dough in the County Farm kitchen.  I now bake my own bread and would never be able to knead such an amount of dough at one time; although now in my adult life, I am a larger woman than Mrs. Kelly. 
(She was strong and determined with many responsibilities in life; perhaps I should think about that.)
My bread recipe dictates kneading the dough for ten minutes.  I’m sometimes able to stick with it until five minutes have passed.  Mrs. Kelly would no doubt suggest that the bread would be finer if I followed directions.
 When visiting at just the right time, the aroma of baking bread always greeted me near the kitchen door.  Not far behind me, there were bread customers waiting to purchase a wonderful loaf of Mrs. Kelly’s homemade bread.
  As I recall, she charged them $1.00 per loaf; the loaves were huge.
Long gray hair, was always carefully braided and wrapped neatly around Mrs. Kelly’s head. She never walked anywhere slowly; always on the move carrying out her vast responsibilities.
The kitchen and her family’s living quarters were neat and very clean. The dishes were done and everything was in its’ place.  In the pantry, next to the kitchen, sat a wire basket of eggs, waiting for her local customers who weekly purchased the freshest eggs in town.
Sometimes Mrs. Kelly allowed me to go to the chicken coop with her, to gather the eggs. I loved it.
One summer, I observed Mrs. Kelly preparing a bountiful meal for eight men who had come to help Mr. Kelly with the threshing.  Never have I seen nor smelled such a wonderful array of food.  I remember the table and the men who had come to help Mr. Kelly, filling their plates again and again.
   No one ever left Mrs. Kelly’s dinner table hungry.
As years went by, Mrs. Kelly and I became closer friends.  When I graduated from high school near the top of my class, as had her sons and daughters, she invited me to the room where graduation pictures of her children were displayed on an old upright piano.
She was very proud of her children.  There sat my graduation picture, now displayed next to those of her children.  This was Mrs. Kelly’s way of showing how much she cared for me.
She was proud of my achievements too, and there couldn’t have been any clearer proof.
After high school, I became employed in the town where I’d grown up, although I now lived half an hour’s drive away.  Arranging to arrive for work a little early, I could spend time visiting with Mrs. Kelly in the County Farm kitchen as she was busily preparing meals for the residents and baking bread for her special customers.
The aroma of those wonderful baking loaves continued to greet me at the door.
A few years later, I married and went to live in a neighboring town.
Opportunities to visit Mrs. Kelly were few.  I felt lonely and sad without friends I’d left behind in the town where I’d grown to adulthood.
I often shared my feelings with Mrs. Kelly, and she offered me the understand of a caring friend.
At the birth of our first child, Mrs. Kelly came to the hospital to visit.  As I recall, that was the only occasion on which I saw her away from her home at the County Farm.
Putting her hand on my arm as she stood near my bed, she said; “Now you’ll never be lonely again”.  I needed to hear that.
Time passed.
One day, while visiting in my former town, I decided to go and spend some time with Mrs. Kelly at the farm.  She wasn’t home.  I was told she was in the hospital.
  Going directly to the hospital, I sat down in the waiting room.  Just then, Mr. Kelly came through the inner door.
He was crying.
 I was informed by a nurse that Mrs. Kelly had suddenly gone into cardiac arrest…and died.
Our times together had ended, but as you can see, memories have remained.

“Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”

Photography By Mary Anne Whitchurch Tuck
copyright@2021
My first-born…July 21, 1956….Craig
Bread dough rising in “my” kitchen today.

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By maryannetuck

The future is right ahead of me and new projects seem to beckon... Friends and memories of times past remain with me today. I love to share my stories along with comments and opinions (of course) of today's challenges. Photography is my hobby and opportunities to capture the scenes before me are mine for the taking. Born and raised in Michigan, the peaceful woods and wildlife trails have always attracted me. Graduating from high school in the early fifties, college was of no interest to me. I have learned one important fact about life; whover decided when a person becomes "old"...didn't know what they were talking about...My theory is; you're as old as you think you are....(I'm thinking about it..haven't decided yet.)

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